So I was talking with our director of book publishing the other day about blogging--we're all about encouraging our authors to blog and that sort of thing. I think some people don't realize how much time goes into building a blog and gaining followers and how hard it can be. Maybe for some people it's easier than others--they have a great design and a fantastic voice and people flock to them. Must be nice.
Then are the regular people like me.
I'm not very tech savvy. It took me like a hundred years to put together that header and my blog buttons. (Only a slight exaggeration. Days.) I suppose I could have paid someone to do it, but when you're just starting out, it's hard to invest money in something that you have no idea whether it will work or whether you'll quit after months of rejection by readers. Then once you start, it can take a while to find your voice. It did for me. Sometimes I feel like I'm still finding it. Then you need to have time to frequent other blogs. Lucky for me, I'm a big reader. So reading other people's blogs and commenting wasn't a chore. I like doing it. It's just time consuming. But I do think you have to read and comment to gain readers, at least at first. And it just seems fair, you know. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. (Just a figure of speech. That really sounds gross to me. And I'm ticklish so I don't want anyone touching my back.) Better said, if I want you to spend time on my blog, I need to be nice enough to spend time on yours. But there are only so many hours in the day. Still, I can try to work in a little time to read a blog or two (or ten) after writing up a post. And since I hope readers will do the same for me, I'm willing to do it.
On to the blog hop idea. I think these are great. Really, for one thing, I know there are tons of fantastic mommy/lifestyle blogs out there and I'm all about finding some that I connect with. And a bunch of cool blogs in one place is a great way to find them. That's why I join these hops sometimes. Like Friday's Letters. Love it. Love the idea of summing up my week with letters and love getting snippets of other bloggers lives by reading their letters. Tomorrow I'm joining the Aloha blog hop. This one is really nice because there are so many blogs that link up, you have a great chance of finding new blogs you like, and of course, of your blog being found!
Why do I write my blog? Well, for one (and my most important reason), I'm documenting life with me and Jeff and our little darlings and blogging is faster and easier than scrapbooking. Two, at heart I'm a writer, blogging is a good outlet for me to share my thoughts. And three, truthfully, sometimes mommyhood makes me crazy. I like feeling like I can vent to my online friends. I like finding good recipes, good birthday party ideas, thought-provoking posts when I need to reflect (like Ann Voskamp's), funny stories when I need to laugh.
But . . . Nancy's right too. I need people. I need friendship and interaction. I want to have girlfriends over for coffee or go out for drinks with a friend after work. I do like to be social. I like to be invited to things or host parties. I especially like tea dates with my sisters. (But you know, spending time with Sara and Laura or my mom doesn't count as socializing, I think. Being with them is like being with an extension of myself. I can be in pajamas with unwashed hair and no makeup on and a runny nose and still want those three to come over and be with me. That's love.)
Blogging is a form of interaction. We put things out there and wait--hoping someone will comment, will understand what we mean, will connect with our words, will care about what we have to say. When something extraordinary happens, or when something's really, really funny, I always think, I need to blog about this. First to remember it, then to share it.
Why do you blog?